Acknowledge us on Mother’s and Father’s Day. My husband’s parents said we could celebrate next year -if- we have another baby by then.
please be patient with me and understand that I have good days and bad days. I may not talk about my babies all the time, but there’s rarely an hour that passes that I don’t think about them, and what things would be like if they had lived.
i don’t like to hear “I know how you feel,” because it came from people who had never lost a child.
Don’t get offended when I don’t open up to you in the exact time that you feel like I should. I will talk about my hurt and grief when I’m ready. So be there for me when that time comes.
I wish they would ask me more about my daughter and talk about her, and not be afraid to laugh and smile when doing it. I also kinda wish people would stop saying, “I’m their hero,” and how strong I’m being. It kinda makes me feel like I have no room to break down and not be strong.
I hate how some people will say we have two kids when we have three kids. I hate that people forget my angel baby.
I want people to talk about her and remember her. I want to be a proud momma. She deserves to be remembered. She fought so hard to stay with us. She was so strong. I wish people remembered that and talked about it. She was amazing.
Everyone keeps telling me i can just get pregnant again and have another baby. But I wanted that pregnancy. I wanted that baby.
My child died. I don’t need advice. All I need is for you to gently close your mouth, open wide your heart and walk with me until I can see in color again.
Please stop telling me I will come out of this a stronger person. I am broken and the death of my child did not make me stronger. I have no choice but to learn to survive ... learn to exist without my baby. trying to convince yourself this somehow will improve my character may help you feel better about my loss, but it will not help me and couldn’t be further from the truth.
I wish my parents would include my baby when they talk about how many grandchildren they have. They have three - not two - I just wish they would acknowledge it, even if it potentially leads to an uncomfortable conversation.
I want people to know that something like this changed me. I’m not the same person, so having others point out “you’re different” as a negative can really hurt. Of course I’m different - I’m supposed to be.